While many parents will never know what it’s like, other parents will always fear the dreaded phone call from school that informs them that their “problem” child is acting up again. Even if you and your partner are very laid back, your child may choose to express themselves through anger and temper tantrums.
Strong Screaming Due To A Tantrum
Some kids have a hard time within group settings, refusing to cooperate until they get their way. This may be in order to get attention, and it may just be an impulsive reaction to something they don’t like.
No matter how many times schools may call, it’s something that’s really hard to get used to. Teachers may call you to have meetings in order to decide what the best game plan is in order to check the child “back on track.” Sometimes, no matter what interventions are done, nothing seems to help.
The best plan of action is to first of all make sure the child is not being violent. Once that’s established, try to remember that the teachers are on your side, as they are trying to help. Once you can get used to the fact that they are trying to help you, things can move forward.
You Will Get Through This
Of course, it may feel like punishments are futile and may even reach the point where they are almost second nature. It can get very frustrating to know that yours is the child that’s always getting into trouble and that consequences seem like nothing to them. It can be absolutely exhausting.
It can consume your life and add on to the other stresses you have to deal with like your job, your marriage, and your other children. Sometimes it can feel like you’re trying everything you possibly can, but nothing helps. Whether its therapy, tough love, extra attention, many talks, changes in diet, sometimes it’s difficult to accept that trying your best doesn’t seem to help at all.
The most important thing to remember is that you are doing your best, and sometimes that will be enough, and sometimes it won’t, and that is totally okay. Some kids need to figure it out on their own before they change their behavior.
Having A Kid Who Acts Out Is Tough
Try to reach out to other parents and create a support system for you, because during hard times having people to lean in is an incredible tool. Just having someone who’s willing to listen and affirm that yes, you are doing your best can do wonders. Always remember to also take care of yourself.
